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The ADHD Effect on Marriage


Synopsis


Updated in 2020! invaluable resource for couples in which one or both partners have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD), this authoritative book guides troubled partners towards an understanding and appreciation for the struggles and triumphs of a relationship affected by it, and to integrate ADHD into their relationship in a more positive and less disruptive way. Going beyond traditional marriage counseling which can often discount the influence of ADHD, this discussion offers advice from the author's personal experience and years of research and identifies patterns of behavior that can hurt marriages-such as nagging, intimacy problems, sudden anger, and memory issues-through the use of descriptions of actual couples and their ADHD struggles and solutions. The first third of the book is dedicated to helping couples identify how ADHD impacts their relationship. The last two-thirds provides a specific set of steps couples can move through to overcome their hurt and anger, once again develop loving ways to interact with each other, and find the joy they've lost in their struggles. This book encourages both spouses to become active partners in improving their relationship.

Melissa Orlov

Summary

Chapter 1: Understanding ADHD

* Summary: Explains ADHD symptoms, causes, and treatment options.
* Example: Max, a husband with ADHD, experiences distractibility, impulsivity, and forgetfulness.

Chapter 2: The ADHD Effect on Relationships

* Summary: Discusses how ADHD can impact communication, emotional regulation, and sexual intimacy.
* Example: Max's impulsivity leads to frequent interruptions during conversations, frustrating his wife.

Chapter 3: The Impact on the Partner

* Summary: Explores the challenges faced by partners of individuals with ADHD, such as feeling overwhelmed, resentful, or alone.
* Example: Max's wife, Jill, feels exhausted and unappreciated due to his lack of follow-through and attention.

Chapter 4: Communication and Problem-Solving

* Summary: Provides strategies for effective communication and problem-solving in ADHD relationships.
* Example: Max and Jill use "I" statements and active listening techniques to improve their communication.

Chapter 5: Managing Impulsivity and Hyperactivity

* Summary: Offers tools and techniques to control impulsivity, hyperactivity, and restlessness in adults with ADHD.
* Example: Max uses mindfulness exercises and a weighted blanket to reduce restlessness.

Chapter 6: Dealing with Inattention and Forgetfulness

* Summary: Provides strategies for improving attention and memory in adults with ADHD.
* Example: Max uses to-do lists, reminders, and sticky notes to stay organized.

Chapter 7: Medication and Other Treatments

* Summary: Discusses the benefits and potential side effects of ADHD medications.
* Example: Max takes a stimulant medication that helps improve his attention and focus.

Chapter 8: Building a Supportive Network

* Summary: Emphasizes the importance of finding support from family, friends, or support groups.
* Example: Max attends an ADHD support group where he connects with others who understand his challenges.

Chapter 9: The Journey to Recovery

* Summary: Outlines the steps for improving relationships and well-being in ADHD marriages.
* Example: Max and Jill work together to create a structured environment, set realistic expectations, and prioritize their relationship.