How to Be an Adult

Synopsis

Living life as a happy, mature adult does not always come easily to all of us. In this best-selling work, David Richo conveys to his readers just how to do this, based on his many years' experience as a psychotherapist and workshop leader. The author uses as a model the heroic journey whose three phases-departure, struggle, and return-explain what happens in us as we evolve from neurotic ego through healthy ego to the spiritual Self. Departure is explored by helping the reader deal with fear, anger, and guilt, and building self-esteem. Through struggle one learns to maintain boundaries and build intimacy in relationships. And the result is a return to wholeness and love through integration. This thoughtful, approachable work is filled with checklists, diagrams, and literary quotations for meditation, making this a book to read and digest a little at a time for best results. How to Be an Adult will guide readers on their positive journey from fear, through power, to love. †

Summary

Chapter 1: On Being an Adult

* Focuses on the transition from childhood to adulthood and the responsibilities that come with it.
* Real example: Leaving home for college and managing finances, time, and relationships independently.

Chapter 2: On Work and Money

* Explores the importance of finding a fulfilling career and managing finances effectively.
* Real example: Choosing a major in college that aligns with interests and career goals, and creating a budget to track income and expenses.

Chapter 3: On Relationships

* Discusses the complexities of intimate relationships, friendships, and family dynamics.
* Real example: Navigating the challenges of dating and maintaining healthy relationships with partners, friends, and family members.

Chapter 4: On Health and Wellness

* Emphasizes the importance of taking care of physical, mental, and emotional health.
* Real example: Establishing a regular exercise routine, eating a balanced diet, and seeking professional help when needed to address mental health concerns.

Chapter 5: On Education and Learning

* Highlights the lifelong importance of education and the pursuit of knowledge.
* Real example: Enrolling in continuing education classes, reading books, or learning new skills through online courses or workshops.

Chapter 6: On Values and Beliefs

* Explores the role of values and beliefs in shaping personal identity and decision-making.
* Real example: Evaluating personal beliefs and values, and making choices that align with those beliefs.

Chapter 7: On Failure and Resilience

* Discusses the inevitability of failure and the importance of developing resilience.
* Real example: Experiencing a setback in a career, relationship, or personal goal, and learning from it to grow stronger.

Chapter 8: On Balance and Boundaries

* Emphasizes the importance of balancing different aspects of life and setting boundaries to protect well-being.
* Real example: Scheduling time for work, relationships, personal pursuits, and self-care, and learning to say no to commitments that would overwhelm or deplete.

Chapter 9: On Meaning and Purpose

* Explores the search for meaning and purpose in life and the role it plays in fulfillment.
* Real example: Volunteering for a cause one cares about, pursuing passions, or finding joy in everyday moments.

Chapter 10: On The Future

* Concludes the book by addressing the uncertainties and possibilities of the future, and encouraging readers to embrace it with optimism and a sense of purpose.
* Real example: Planning for the future, whether it involves career aspirations, financial goals, or personal growth, while remaining adaptable and open to unexpected opportunities.