Disarming the Narcissist

Synopsis

The go-to guide for dealing with the narcissist in your life-now fully revised and updated based on reader
feedback!

Do you know someone who is overly arrogant, shows an extreme lack of empathy, or exhibits an inflated sense of entitlement? Do they exploit others, or engage in deluded thinking? These are all traits of narcissistic personality disorder, and when it comes to dealing with narcissists, it can be difficult to get your point across. So, how do you handle the narcissistic people in your life? You might interact with them in social or professional settings, and you might even love one-so ignoring them isn't really a practical solution. They're frustrating, and maybe even intimidating, but ultimately, you need to find a way of communicating effectively with them.

Now a self-help classic, Disarming the Narcissist is a practical, step-by-step communication guide to help you cope with and confront the narcissist in your life. Based on reader feedback, this fully revised and updated third edition features new information on shame, hypersexuality, and infidelity in narcissism; legal information to help you if you are divorcing a narcissist; and the impact of narcissism on children.

With this how-to guide, you'll learn how to separate yourself from a narcissist's traps, and gain the respect and validation you deserve-while side-stepping unproductive power struggles and senseless arguments with someone who is at the centre of his or her own universe. Finally, you'll learn how to set limits with your narcissist and when it's time to draw the line on unacceptable behavior.

Summary

Chapter 1: The Narcissist's Toolkit

* Explains the characteristics of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), including grandiose self-importance, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy.
* Real example: A narcissist may constantly brag about their accomplishments and seek constant praise from others.

Chapter 2: The Narcissist's Grandiose Self

* Explores the narcissist's inflated sense of self-importance and their belief that they are superior to others.
* Real example: A narcissist may say, "I'm the best employee in the company, and everyone else is just jealous."

Chapter 3: The Narcissist's Need for Admiration

* Describes the narcissist's constant need for attention and approval from others.
* Real example: A narcissist may post multiple selfies on social media each day and expect positive comments.

Chapter 4: The Narcissist's Lack of Empathy

* Explains that narcissists have difficulty understanding and responding to the emotions of others.
* Real example: A narcissist may remain unfazed when their partner is upset or crying.

Chapter 5: Disarming the Narcissist

* Provides strategies for dealing with narcissists in various situations, including setting boundaries, ignoring their provocations, and refusing to engage in their drama.
* Real example: In a workplace setting, you could limit contact with a narcissistic coworker and focus on completing your own tasks.

Chapter 6: Breaking the Cycle of Narcissism

* Discusses the importance of understanding and accepting that narcissists are unlikely to change.
* Real example: Realizing that a narcissistic parent will never offer unconditional love can help you to manage your expectations and protect your own well-being.

Chapter 7: Healing from Narcissistic Abuse

* Offers guidance for recovering from the emotional and psychological damage caused by narcissistic relationships.
* Real example: Practicing self-care, setting healthy boundaries, and seeking therapy can help you to heal from the trauma.

Chapter 8: The Art of Gray Rocking

* Explains the technique of "gray rocking," which involves becoming emotionally unresponsive and uninteresting to narcissists.
* Real example: When interacting with a narcissist, you could use short, neutral responses and avoid sharing personal information.

Chapter 9: The Power of No

* Emphasizes the importance of setting and enforcing boundaries with narcissists, even when it's uncomfortable.
* Real example: You could decline social invitations from a narcissistic friend or refuse to help them with tasks that you don't have time for.

Chapter 10: The Importance of Self-Care

* Stresses the need to prioritize self-care and protect your own mental and emotional well-being when dealing with narcissists.
* Real example: Setting aside time for relaxation, pursuing hobbies, and connecting with supportive friends and family can help you to maintain your resilience.